Wednesday, 30 January 2019

HOW COUPLES CAN HANDLE DISAPPOINTMENT OF NOT ACHIEVING PREGNANCY ON TIME

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If it is taking you longer to get pregnant than you expected, it would be a natural thing feeling disappointed because building a family and becoming a parent are fundamental parts of life, so when they don’t come easily. It’s common to feel as if something is wrong with you. It is usually practical to accept that pregnancy doesn’t always happen as expected.
                                           
If you’ve been trying for more than a year, you might want to consider your options. The first step may be to visit a world-class fertility specialist like Dr. Michael Ogunkoya (+2348033069466) of The Hope Valley Fertility Clinic, Lekki, Lagos. This is because, quite often, many such problems are quite easy to treat. So, you could end up sparing yourself a lot of further disappointment by identifying any problem quickly.

A good first step is to recognize that infertility is a crisis and probably one of the most difficult things you’ll ever face. It can call into question the most basic expectations you have for yourself, your body, and your relationship.

It’s normal to feel a monumental sense of loss, to feel stressed, sad, or overwhelmed. You mustn’t give yourself a hard time for feeling these things and allowing yourself to feel these powerful emotions can help move beyond them.

People who are successful in their careers can have a particularly difficult time dealing with the loss of control that comes with not being able to conceive. If you’ve planned everything else in your life successfully and suddenly you aren’t able to have a child, it can be very hard.

When faced with infertility, it’s quite normal to blame yourself. But you do not need to blame yourself. You may have doubts. Self-doubt is common, but most fertility specialists know that when people get caught in negative patterns of worrying, it only makes things worse.

Instead of berating yourself, look forward to how you and your partner are going to manage the situation. When you start feeling like you “should have” or “could have” done things differently, remind yourself that infertility is not your fault. Even if you could have made different decisions in the past, they’re behind you now.

Look forward, get educated, read and ask questions. Ask questions and even more questions. This is solid advice when you are facing any problem, but it’s especially important when dealing with infertility because the technology is complicated and changes so quickly.

You need to understand what’s happening medically so that you can make informed choices. By implication, you need to work as a team with your partner. Don’t give in to the temptation to blame each other. Instead, help each other. This doesn’t mean you need to feel the same thing at the same time, but it does mean paying attention to what your partner is going through. If you’re taking care of each other emotionally, you can unite to fight the problem.

Many women are only able to bear all the treatments they go through because their husbands stand by them all the way. The same thing works out conversely. Practical issues can also help you work with, not against, each other.

Work together and find ways to share the burden. If certain gatherings or celebrations are too painful for you, give yourself permission to avoid them when you’re having a particularly tough time. If there is an occasion you just can’t avoid, arrive late or leave early. In view of the fact that society often fails to recognize the grief caused by infertility, those affected tend to hide how they feel, which only leads to feelings of shame and isolation.

It could be helpful to talk to others who are going through the same challenges. This will make you understand that you are not alone. You can also talk to Dr. Michael Ogunkoya (+2348033069466) who is a world-class Consultant Gynaecologist and best Fertility Specialist in Nigeria. He was trained in the best medical schools in USA, London, Canada, Wales and Hungary. Dr. Ogunkoya is the man that has the divine mandate to stamp-out infertility among Nigerian couples. Just call him to book an appointment and your challenges will be things of the past. With God, all things are possible. Dr. Ogunkoya is the medical director of The Hope Valley Fertility Clinic.

The Hope Valley Fertility Clinic
Plot 31, Block 113, Oladimeji Alo Street, Opposite VFS (Visa Office), By Ikate Roundabout, Lekki Phase 1, Lagos-Epe Express Way, Lagos.
                                                           +2348033069466              

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