I got a bashing. One guy told me
to go ahead and marry more than one wife instead of pretending to see monogamy
as a problem for humanity. I have learnt long ago that if you point out a
problem, people often think that you are talking about your own problem. If you
say that Nigeria's economy is in bad shape occasioned by mindless wicked
leaders, people would think that things are so bad for you, and that is why you
are crying out.
The truth is that with monogamy
becoming the acceptable norm of the world, a lot of ladies will never taste
what is called "marriage" in the true sense of the word. It has been
like that in the Western world. It is a gaining trend in Africa. I have seen a
lot of self-help towards ameliorating this challenge. Single mom is becoming an
improvised fad. Lesbianism is an affronted response to husbandlessness.
When I tried to do a research on
why we have so many single ladies, I discovered that the world is not even
sincere with the matter. We are trying to pretend that the problem does not
exist. The world claims that in the world's demographic representation, the
population of females are not radically different from that of males.
I watched a viral video where
some ladies in a church were singing and beseeching God "Jehovah carry me
go my husband house!". People laughed at them, but in my characteristic
empathy, my heart went out to them. I can feel their pain and frustration. If
males are not in short supply, then why are there not enough husbands to go
round?
I saw one ugly homeless Nollywood
actor. A philanthropic man of God came to his rescue by taking him out of the
Street. He gave him an accommodation and promised to get him a wife. I was
amazed at the number of beautiful, educated and sophisticated young girls
angling to become his wife. The idiot told the pastor to look for a virgin from
Israel for him. If males are not in short supply, then why are there not enough
husbands to go round?
I saw a lady recently. She is a
teacher and very beautiful. Her church is the one paying for her house rent and
paying her two children's school fees.
She was said to be a virgin when she got married to an ugly man who is a
saddist. He used to beat her blue black all the time. She had to be rescued
from early grave by the church. If males are not in short supply, then why are
there not enough husbands to go round?
The day I saw the husband of one
of my female colleagues, I knew instantly that everything about him is
fraudulent. I was not surprised when I learnt that my colleague is the one
carrying all the loads of the family. If males are not in short supply, then
why are there not enough husbands to go round?
Some ladies are staying in
abusive marriages because there are no husbands out there. A lot of ladies are
being scammed by dubious characters in the name of "husband". Thanks
to monogamy. There are a lot of ladies out there that are the breadwinners of
their families.
When I was young, I can't
remember ever seeing unmarried ladies of 40 years and above in Agila. Even widows
get new husbands because the Agila people practice polygamy. The story is
changing.
So many ladies crying to God for
husbands. But even the female folks don't want to share their husbands with
another woman. We insist that polygamy is a sin, but we pretend not to know
that most men have mistresses and children outside of their marriage. We
surmised that polygamy is wrong but we don't have a solution that will give our
ladies their own husbands.
Science needs to do more in order
to breach the marriage deficit because frankly speaking, there is relative
scarcity of husbands.
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